Pregnant again? How the second time is different than the first

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Oh the joys of pregnancy.  Being pregnant is an interesting journey.  In nine short (or long) months your body takes over and you are just along for the ride.  While I love the fact that there is a baby growing inside of me, the rest I just kind of tolerate.  Some women absolutely love being pregnant and have little to no discomforts.  I on the other hand, well not so much.  Between the morning sickness, raging heartburn, and the whole feeling like a beached whale thing, well… like I said, I love that I’m growing a baby. Period.  Oh and not having a period, that’s pretty nice too hah. Don’t get me wrong though, I know how lucky I am to be able to conceive so easily.  Truly, it’s a blessing and apparently I am quite fertile.

 

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This cracks me up every time I see it on pinterest

With the first everything is new and exciting.  Every week I checked each pregnancy app I had installed on my phone.  I had to know how big the baby was, how it was developing, what it could possibly be doing in there (obviously), what my body was doing etc.  I read about every pregnancy symptom and was a regular on all the forums. I had a weekly journal I wrote in about how I felt and what I was doing.  In a nutshell I was obsessed.  This time is so totally different it almost makes me feel guilty.

Finding out was a bit different

My first was a complete surprise and we were just ecstatic.  I hate to admit it but this pregnancy was also not planned and I may have cried a little when I found out.  Then I cried some more because I felt guilty for being upset when other women are struggling with infertility.  How’s that for hormones.  My daughter had literally just turned one and my crohn’s was not under control.  In my opinion this was the worst possible time to get pregnant.  But God had other plans.  After I got over the shock (which took me about 16 weeks) I couldn’t be more excited.  My crohn’s is behaving for now and I’m happy I will be having two kids so close in age.  Plus I have severe baby fever and I’m glad I only have to wait a few more months for some newborn snuggles.

There’s no time to think about being pregnant

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630 am- I wasn’t ready to be awake yet

Having a toddler and being pregnant is a whole new ball game.  When I was pregnant with my first I was able to rest, put my feet up, and take a nap if I was tired.  My daughter just turned 18 months and She. Is. Crazy.  She is up on average, between 7 and 7:30 every morning.  Sometimes she takes a nap but most days she fights it.  She doesn’t go to bed until at least 7 pm.  That is 12 hours of constant vigilance my friends.  If she’s not trying to do something dangerous, she’s attempting to eat a non food item.  I don’t have time to even think about the fact I am growing another human.  Heck I can’t even go to the bathroom by myself anymore.

The symptoms seem worse

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The struggle is so real

For whatever reason this pregnancy just feels harder.  The morning sickness was worse, my aches and pains are worse, the exhaustion is worse, the heartburn is off the freakin’ charts this time.  Forget pregnancy brain, I think I have pregnancy alzheimer’s… is that a thing??  If I don’t write it down it didn’t exist.  When you don’t have other kids sucking the life out of you  to tend to, you can rest and relax making it easier to get through the symptoms.  With a toddler in tow, I just have to suck it up most of the time.  It’s hard.  I’m beat.

I’m vaguely aware of what week I’m in

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I just hit the third trimester and I didn’t realize it until my doctor increased my visits to every two weeks.  Then I checked my app and yup 28 weeks, third tri.  Holy crap.

I’m not excited about wearing maternity clothes

With my first I could not wait until I had a legit bump to show off and then promptly spent way too much money on clothes I would only be wearing for a few months.  This time I stuffed myself into my regular jeans until it was just too uncomfortable to continue AND I was certain my shirt would lift up in public and someone would see my unbuttoned pants about to bust off. #classy.  I pretty much wear the same two pairs of maternity pants and tops now.  I prefer when I don’t have to get dressed so I can wear sweats and an over-sized tee all day.  Yeah I’m pretty fancy.

I’m definitely bigger this time

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At every appointment I have gained the same exact amount of weight for the week as last time, yet I am somehow bigger.  My bump is more round and “out there”.  My face is fuller and not in a flattering way.  My boobs are way bigger this time (how is this even possible?).  I’m already hitting waddle status and I have 3 more months to go.  Don’t even talk to me about trying to bend over.  The first time I was so excited to have a bump so people would notice that I was pregnant.  I really didn’t care how much I showed.  This time I repeat over and over on a daily basis “Is it May yet!?” Stick a fork in me, I am so done.

I’m not obsessing over the baby

My husband didn’t want to find out what we are having this time and we didn’t with Dakota either.  However, with Dakota I was obsessed with trying to figure out what the gender was.  I asked anyone and everyone if they had any feelings or wanted to take a guess.  I read just about every single wives tale and studied my ultrasound photos to try to determine the ramzi, nub, and skull theories.  By the way they were all WRONG.  I was constantly wondering what the baby would look like. What color hair would it have? Would it have hair?  How big will it be?  How long? etc etc etc. This time I am excited to wait for the gender reveal at birth and I’m not really concerned about what’s going to come out…. except that it better not weigh 10 pounds.

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Mommin’ aint easy. She doesn’t care that my hips feel like they are about to fall off. She just wants me to hold her!

I’m not obsessing over what is “right” or “wrong”

There are so many “rules” to follow when you are pregnant.  Don’t eat deli meat, unless you heat it to steaming first.  Don’t drink caffeine, unless you consume under 200mg daily.  No strenuous activity, unless you were previously active.  And on and on.  I’m not at all concerning myself this time with any of this.  I drink coffee.  I eat lunch meat occasionally.  I stay active.  I take my prenatals when I remember and feel well enough.  So far everything has come back 100% completely normal.  I think everything is gonna be fine.

My thoughts about labor and delivery are completely different

With the first baby you really don’t know what to expect.  Labor and delivery is so different for everyone and no one can really describe what the pain feels like.  Heck some people have no pain at all #jealous.  I probably have at least five different books on labor and delivery which are now collecting dust on my bookshelf.  I will say reading them helped me tremendously to prepare for my first.  With the first I wanted to know how it was all going to go down and what it was going to feel like.  Now that I know what it feels like (God’s wrath) and what to expect (pain, no modesty, and bodily fluids) my thoughts have shifted.  Now my only concerns are 1. This better not take 20 hours again. 2. This baby better come out in 3 pushes. 3. I better not be 12 days late again.

[Seriously though if you want to read my post on natural childbirth click here]

 Oh and I forgot to mention

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I’m really banking on the fact this baby will sleep in the swing for 5 months like Dakota did. ?

Was your second pregnancy different than the first?

Was it harder or easier? I’d love to hear it.  Let me know in the comments below.  In the meantime I’ll be counting down the days until May.  🙂

 

I found all of the images on pinterest (except the ones of me, my kid, and my pee sticks lol)

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14 Comments

  1. Krystle

    Great post! I just had my second, 14 months after my first. Like you, I just didn’t really care as much. I was too busy tending to the other baby/toddler to notice all the aches and pains. I weighed exactly the same as with the first, but I was way bigger. I didn’t get any stretchmarks with the first but somehow ended up with at least 20 with the second. We did absolutely nothing to prepare the second kid’s room and now that she’s here, she just sleeps in a bassinet in our room. Labor was only 1 hr shorter, but I pushed 3 times instead of for 2 hrs. Unfortunately, it was just as painful! This time I did it at home, so that was nice because we didn’t have to go anywhere afterward. Good luck with the second. It’s a challenge but totally with it! I’m going to be a little more careful this time around. I need a break from pregnancy, haha!

    • jackie.osanitsch@gmail.com

      Thanks! Oh goodness I don’t want to feel the pain again but if I only have to push 3 times I will be happy! I think I’m on the road to stretchmarks this time too 🙁 though am hoping by some miracle it doesn’t happen. We don’t even have a room to put the new baby in this time so it will be sleeping in a bassinet with us too! It’s funny how with the second everything is so much more lax. I’m just like meh we’ll figure it out! Haha I hear ya on needing a break as well. I’m already considering getting an IUD. I think I want a third but I also need a break. Thanks for reading!

  2. I was only 5 days late with my first, I can’t imagine being 12 days late! We are trying at the end of the year for our second. Happy 3rd trimester! Hope you can get some rest before 1 becomes 2.

    • jackie.osanitsch@gmail.com

      Oh my goodness it was absolute torture being 12 days late. I tried every crazy thing you can think of. Hoping I’m early this time ?. Good luck to you!!! Thanks for reading ?

  3. Beth

    We just had our first in January and are planning to start trying for our second at the end of the year/ early next year and am terrified of how it will go! With my first I was so thankful to have gotten pregnant that I was very positive about everything and don’t feel like it was that bad. My labor was short and sweet and it wasn’t until afterwards I realized how miserable I was in my last trimester lol. I am watching friends going through pregnancy with their second and comparing it to their first and it scares the crap out of me! I want to be able to be just as positive and optimistic with #2 and I was with #1 but think it will be a lot harder since you do have something to compare it to and what you remember may be better than it actually was.

    • jackie.osanitsch@gmail.com

      Ah you are so lucky your labor was short. I was in labor for 20 hours ?. This time it was harder being pregnant but it also went by faster and I didn’t have as much time to dwell on anything. I am still positive and once you feel the baby kicking and moving you will be smitten just like the first! I think the only thing I’m really scared of is the labor this time bc I already know how painful it is! But every labor is different so I’m just hoping this one is quick and easy ?

  4. Veronica

    Love your post!! Crazy question! I would really appreciate some input. We just had our 1st baby (Dominic ☺) on February 1st. We want our kids to be close in age so we just started talking about when to have #2. We’re thinking that we’ll start trying by the time D is 4 maybe 5 months? Is this too soon? Am I crazy to want that?

    • jackie.osanitsch@gmail.com

      Congrats on the birth of your son! It’s just the best isn’t it? I think if you want them that close together go for it! I wanted mine close together. We originally started trying at 8-9 months for our second but then my Crohn’s got bad so we put it on hold. I got pregnant anyway like a week after my daughter turned 1! It’s definitely going to be challenging because she is still so young, and not potty trained. I’ve asked others who have had kids close and they say it’s hard at first but it’s easier in the long run. Plus their kids were close growing up. I’m hoping that is the case! I mean I’d personally rather just get it all over with while I’m used to functioning on little sleep and wiping butts lol. I keep saying I want a third and am wondering if I should just have it soon or wait a bit because being pregnant is hard. But we’ll see how life is after number 2 comes in a few more weeks! Best of luck to you!

  5. Avocado Mama

    this is such a perfect find for me today as I absent mindedly scroll through pinterest while my 17 month sleeps and yes she is crazy too and does every single thing you mentioned yours did. I am currently 25 weeks pregnant and this article is just perfect.

    • jackie.osanitsch@gmail.com

      Congrats! It’s crazy isn’t it!? I still can’t wrap my head around the fact that in 5 weeks I’m going to have another one! My daughter just gets crazier by the day lol! Good luck to you and thanks for reading

  6. Zameena

    This is so ME ! I’m also due in May , and everything that’s written up there is literally me .. lol
    Praying for your safe delivery !
    I hope all goes well , I’m also scared of the pushing , and not to face an episiotomy again . ( first one was BAD)

    • jackie.osanitsch@gmail.com

      Congrats and praying for an easy and safe delivery for you too! I had an episotomy with my first as well but it wasn’t terrible. I hope this time neither of us need one!

    • jackie.osanitsch@gmail.com

      Haha its definitely harder the second time because toddlers don’t understand and they are just used to their routine! My daughter pats my belly and says baby but I don’t think she really understands what’s about to come out in 4 weeks lol! Thanks for reading ?

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